At we head toward February, thoughts often turn to love. When we’re battling a chronic health challenge, like fibromyalgia, often this is not a high priority item. Those with a significant other can start to take that person for granted and those who live independently are generally so focused on functioning day-to-day that dating or finding a mate, is low on the to-do list. But, we all have a human need for love and affection, and studies repeatedly show this is true from infancy on up.
So how is a Fibro Fighter supposed to get a lil love in her life? Here are three suggestions:
- Broaden your definition of love
When we think of love we often think of pink hearts, Valentines Day and romantic pairings but there are many more flavors than that. Take stock of all the love in your life right now. Your parents, siblings, relatives, social friends, neighbors, church friends, gym buddies, office mates, heck, what about your pup or kitty? How about the birds that sing outside your window on a sunny day? There is beauty and love all around you, although that’s easily forgotten when we are in pain and struggling to make sense of our health. Don’t take this “ambient” love for granted, as it can be a wellspring of strength for you.
- Make time for those closest
If you are in a committed relationship, pay attention and nurture that. There is a give and take with any healthy partnership and although fibro may sideline you some days, you will have days when you feel better. It’s important to set time aside to have fun with your significant other when you’re up to it and as you heal there will be more “good” days to enjoy together. Schedule alone time if you have kids and always let your beloved know how much you appreciate their support and love. It’s important to say it and show it as well.
- Love yourself
If you’re like me, you may get frustrated or even disappointed in yourself because your body does not always work the way you’d like it to with fibromyalgia. First, forgive yourself. Having fibro is not your fault. Sometimes you won’t be perfect with your diet, exercise and sleep routines; that’s ok. Just keep the focus on improvement and moving forward in the quest for optimal health, whatever that means for YOU!
Reserve time for self-care every single day and pamper yourself when necessary. CLICK HERE for “3 Ways To Make Self Care a Priority.” Most of us got to the breaking point health-wise due to years of neglect. Sketchy dietary choices, lack of exercise and extreme stress will overwhelm even the strongest person. The truly strong accept this and pick up where they are.
The most loving action you can take is to decide today to get healthier and commit to doing what you need to do to make that happen. Part of that is deciding not to go it alone. Build a support network of friends and family. Also, to fast track your success, consider hiring a health coach who has been in your shoes to be your “guide on the side” towards improved wellness. I’d be happy to chat with you about how I work with clients in this way, CLICK HERE to get more info.
What can you do to bring more love into your life? Do you have any personal experience that you’d like to share or questions on this topic? Please share by leaving a comment below. We love to hear from you!